“Teach the older women to train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.” Titus 2:4-5 (NIV)
While I am a true southerner, my parents are not. My dad is from west Texas, and my mom is from New Mexico. When I was just a few months old, my dad was hired as one of the ministers at a church in Louisiana. Leaving everything and everyone they knew, my mom and dad drove from the itty bitty town of Post, Texas, to the thriving metropolis of West Monroe, Louisiana. Well, hardly a metropolis and hardly thriving. Young, lonely and with a baby girl, two older women quickly took my mom under their wings. In fact, soon after my brother was born, my dad went to Trinidad off the coast of Venezuela for a mission trip that lasted a few weeks. My mom became very ill and was not able to take care of her two babies, which included a newborn. One of those ladies took all three of us into her house and took care of us for those weeks. Not only did she and her husband take care of our physical needs, but Mrs. Marge was also able to minister to my mom with lots of encouragement, Bible study and emotional support. Our entire family remained very close to them until they moved away from West Monroe just a few years ago. I also consider her to be a mentor mom to me.
I saw first-hand how the above Titus 2 scripture was lived out in my own life by the older women, the grandmother-type women in my church family who helped mold my mom and then me as I grew older. I am also thankful for a godly mother and a godly mother-in-law who helped shape me into the godly woman that I am today.
We as women have a responsibility to impact the generations behind us to live out God’s purpose in our lives. I have had amazing women who have helped me realize that, and I am purposely trying to pass that down to my own daughter and nieces on a daily basis. While I am far from perfect, I have a Savior who is flawless, and being real, transparent and seeking God’s guidance are all important parts of mentorship.
At the Heartfelt Conference last weekend, many of us tried to show the 2000 women in attendance all of those aspects of the Titus 2 passage. We laughed at Mary and Shellie until our sides hurt. We jumped out of our seats in applause after listening to Mindy tell the story of personal triumph in her own life after her father was convicted of killing her mother when she was a teen and then finding her own path to Jesus. We were in awe of Sadie talking about how her confidence comes from God and not from people around her. And we cried after listening to my sweet Mia tell her story of physical suffering and singing about how God knows her name and how she is loved by Him. We all left with more knowledge about how we can both mentor to the younger (no matter what age you are) and be open to accepting mentorship from the older (no matter what age you are) by wonderful speakers like Adie Camp (Jeremy Camp’s wife) and Dr. Joneal Kirby.
And I got to sing with my mom, who has been a mentor to me for my entire life.
Do you have a mentor? Are you purposefully mentoring someone?
If the answer to these questions is no, you can start now. You may not have a heritage that has included women who spoke God into you, but you can start that cycle for the generations who are following you: your daughters, nieces, granddaughters, etc.
It starts with relationships. And the best way to start a relationship has always been over a meal or just a simple cup of coffee. Start today. Be a mentor. Make a difference.
Have a fabulous week!
For more information about the Heartfelt mentoring ministry, please visit www.heartfeltministries.org.